It doesn’t have to be this way. My grandparents and extended family were war refugees and on the receiving side of bombings. Fortunately they and their children made it, but they lost everything else – their homes, belongings, friends, neighbors, possibly relatives. Took them maybe 25 years of group effort to emigrate, resettle, and generally rebuild to a modest life. To my best knowledge they have never bombed anyone or participated in other violence.

So yeah, be like them. Get the fuck out of danger, take care of each other, and don’t perpetuate the cycle.