I’d argue comfort could come after more time together in the right circumstances. Many couples choose to live with one sides parents to save money given the housing shortage many countries are facing. The catch is, this typically only works when both the parents and the couple are respectful of each others privacy and boundaries. This often equates to turning a basement into an apartment with sperate bathroom and kitchen/kitchenette.

I’d bet there are plenty of girls out there who can be a great loving partner and also make you feel like a loser when you want it. Instead of hiding your kink and trying to push it down, find a partner who likes you and your kink.