You do it too??? :'D what colors are yours? Ours used to be all the fun colors, blues and pinks and greens but I kept losing them or putting them in the freezer where the plastic would end up breaking, so now they have been replaced with all black and white and grey ones. Which is fine. The new ones clip better anyways.
I hope you find more answers, my friend! 🤗Getting to know and understand yourself better is such a relief. What clued you into giftedness possibly being part of your situation? Sorry for asking, I’m just curious.
Haha thank you! Dunno if I’m harsh on myself. My old math teacher wanted to kick me into a special ed class because he thought I was very low IQ, lol. My Danish teacher had similar opinions. With the amounts of degrees I later failed out of in my youth, I can’t really blame them, though I believe I’m just an average mind with possible ADHD that made learning difficult for me in some settings.
Things are good today, though! I work in a very niche industry where there is a abnormally high number of people with disorders, especially ADHD and autism. That also helps with everybody accepting everybody because we are all a bit weird. By far the most accepting environment I have ever been a part of.
Thank you, my hero! 😚
Wikipedia would have me believe that these meat drilling, bloodsucking mistakes of nature actually pollinate when they aren’t in the process of ruining the lives of warm blooded creatures so now I feel a tiny bit bad, but still. So many other bugs can take over their jobs and manage to lay eggs without feeling the need to turn someone’s skin into Swiss cheese.
I hope that revelation will help you understand yourself better, my friend! Give you some peace of mind 🤗 is it something you want to get tested for or are you satisfied with the suspicion alone? For me, I kinda felt like it was enough to have the ADHD suspicion. Helped me overcome a lot of self hatred and relax a bit more.
I dunno if I would call myself gifted. I’m pretty stupid, tbh, and you kinda have to have a brilliant mind to be gifted, from what I can tell.
Genuine question: what makes you think I should look into that instead of ADHD?
There certainly are some side effects to taking birth control pills and depending on the person they may react differently or not react at all.
In my case I got some heart issues which made sense because it was in my family history so I just switched to the mini pill which I have taken ever since. Fucking love it. I never bleed and I don’t get pms symptoms. Just get to live a normal life without all the gross stuff.
But with all that said, I too believe that the anti birth control wave online was propaganda. It just came about a little too conveniently after the US made abortion illegal. It is just a tad bit too coincidental.
I followed it a bit when it began getting traction some years ago and I felt very confused and disturbed by the narrative being passed around about birth control. It felt like fear mongering and I just felt confused by the symptoms women were reporting online. I have literally never in my life heard of any woman talk about how birth control made her depressed and I have after all been in the game for awhile and known many women who have been in it too. That was the first thing that made me lift an eyebrow.
Then I watched a video where some expert was talking about how birth control pills make women less attracted to manly men and more attracted to feminine men. I forget the name of the expert but I do remember that she was associated with conservatives and had their interests in mind. I thought it was very funny that she was essentially blaming birth control for women being attracted to unacceptable men.
And honestly, I have a question I would like to ask that expert, because when I was a teen girl, before I got on birth control, I was VERY attracted to scrawny men with long hair and eyeliner. Manly men did nothing for me.
I got on birthcontrol at 19 and wanna know what happened to my taste in men over the years? It evolved to being more focused on men with more masculine traits. Instead of scrawny I began finding men who were filled out, more attractive. I began thinking that beards were hot when I had always found them kinda gross. I thought that men who looked a bit gruff went from being gross and boring to being cute and attractive.
I’m pushing 40 now and my spouse is the exact opposite of what I was attracted to as a teen. There is nothing feminine about him.
But I think I know what that expert meant. She’s blaming women choosing partners who treats them as their equals on birth control. Because here is the thing about my man: he may not look feminine nor does he particularly act feminine, but he’s also not a brute who thinks he’s the head of the household and I am his servant. He doesn’t act like he is better than me nor does he feel entitled to me at all. He cooks and cleans. He is very good with emotional talks and being attentive and empathetic. He is very encouraging and has basically no control issues besides claiming the kitchen as his domain. That’s mostly I might be one of the worst cooks in the world.
Women want men who are emotionally intelligent, who are their equals and who are good partners. They don’t want a slave master. And I think that is why American conservatives are trying to blame birth control. If you can convince women that they are taking a pill that mind controls them into wanting something unnatural and wrong, then they may be more compliant than of you flat out blame them for having higher standards for their men than their mothers and grandmothers had.
There are definitely side effects to taking birth control but there are also side effects to taking pain killers.
I have no doubt the anti birth control wave is orcastrated by the very people who are trying to take away women’s autonomy in the US and beyond. I see the anti abortion movement starting to take root in Europe too and I fucking hate it.
Clegs can go extinct and no one will cry about it. Fuck clegs. I will take mosquitos and wasps any day over clegs.
Not only are they the insect version of a bad day they were also adorned the worst color scheme in nature: gray and poop brown. They have nothing going for them. Delete.
Thank you thank you x) used to get really mad at myself for being an idiot with most thing but now I’m just kinda owning it. My spouse is super chill with my weirdness, so at least nobody is affected negatively by it. He mostly laughs when he discovers my newest dumb thing. Most recently he discovered where the plastic bag clippies had disappeared to.
These things!
I had accidentally and over time collected all of them in one corner of the apartment like a squirrel stashing nuts for winter. He thought it was very funny.
That would make sense, wouldn’t it?
That just isn’t how my brain works. If I put a thing down, unless I am super hyped about it or it is urgent, I will forget about it. If I become aware of it again and it still isn’t urgent, I might pick it up with the intention to put it in the proper place but get distracted and put it in a new temporary place because something else more urgent is going on. I will occasionally remember that it is in a specific place and I’ll be like “oh I should move it to the right place/fix it/tidy up/other” and I will forget about it again because something else is happening or I am at work or somewhere, where I can’t do anything about it right now.
My spouse and I have some strong suspicions that I have undiagnosed ADHD, but in the milder end. It is what it is. All you can do is do the best you can and try and find ways to improve. The problem is that no matter how much I work on these things, I will never get truly better. I can get better in one area and then crash and burn in another so I kinda pick which area I want to work on and accept that I will be a train wreck in another.
It is either that or you go buy shampoo, then put it somewhere in the house where you forget all about it and go buy another and forget all about that one too and then you run out of shampoo and are like “oh fuck, I need to buy shampoo” and you manage to remember and come home with a third bottle and then the others start popping up in weird places over the following days.
I am at the end of one such misadventure. I am almost finished with bottle number two and bottle number three disappeared from the kitchen for weeks and reappeared recently in my couch and I put it in the bedroom so I am reminded of it’s existence everyday now. Eventually it will find its way to the bathroom.
Everytime I’m at the store and I pass the shampoo aisle I have to remind myself that Mr couch shampoo is still very much full and very much on its way to the bathroom.
It is so tricky and i dont have any good answers as I’m a tech-idiot, but I’ll try my best to give you some suggestions:
In the past you may come across a comment that sounded overly robotic and emotionless when they commented, but that might as well just be someone on the spectrum. Nowadays some bot comments sound more human than actual human comments. I really cannot tell.
I think I was often accused of being a bot because I tend to go into detail about things that interest me and try to explain things in too many paragraphs, lol. I have tried to learn how to shorten my replies to people but I fucking fail everytime. I literally just spammed a friend with a long ramble about why the Syrian flag looks different and went into the history of the flag and made a cliff notes version of the conflict in Syria because it randomly became an interest for me for a few minutes after a car passed my window with the new Syrian flag on the car helmet. So maybe that trait is a bit off putting to random people who cross my path online. I dunno.
Anyway, I have heard that some people look at sentence structure and grammar to decipher who is real and who isn’t. If the grammar is too good, the sentence structures too perfect, then some people suspect it is a bot. But it’s probably just a matter of time before bots will adapt to poor grammar and writing patterns. If they can go from sounding like a Wikipedia page to cracking jokes and sounding human in less than five years, they can learn how to imitate shitty writing patterns that most of us have. I for one tend to accidentally press the s when I want to press the a and I usually catch it before posting, but sometimes I overlook it.
Usually, on reddit, I would check the comment history of someone I suspected of being a bot. If they posted way too much, like seconds between each comment and in various different subs for hours, I would conclude they were a bot, but I don’t think all bots are like that.
I dunno how I would spot bots in the fediverse, tbh. Maybe similar, checking the comment history if i suspect a bot, but otherwise i dunno man.
Usually I go by how people behave. Anyone who acts insane or aggressive gets blocked. I am too old to deal with shit like that, but that has less to do with bots and more to do with no longer tolerating extremely divisive behavior.
It’s gotten to the point that if someone were to ask me what my super power would be if I could choose, I’d say that I’d like to be able to see what is human and what isn’t when I’m online. Very boring super power, but it would make some things a lot easier.
Ironically I also lost count on how many times I was accused of being a bot near the end of my time on reddit. I wouldn’t be surprised if those who accused me were bots themselves. It was just insane sometimes.
But good luck with that, Mr CEO. I’m sure you care very much about your human users on your goofy platform.
That, and more energy. I swear something got fucked up at the factory when they made me. I’m a terrible scandinavian. I am prone to pretty intense winter depressions and I’m not a fan of the cold either. I have been so far down the dumps during the winter seasons that I have blacked out entire months and have no memory of what I did and my spouse is like “yeah, you basically spent two months sitting in the same corner of the home when you weren’t working, just looking gone, dude.” And when I have winters where I feel like I did pretty good and didn’t get depressed my man still goes “yeah, nah. You were depressed af. Just not vacant this time”.
On the flipside I have been giddy like a kid walking for hours in flip-flops in Mediterranean mountains, getting slow cooked by the summer sun. I remember last time I was visiting Greece with my parents and we walked all morning until noon to get to a nice little beach across the mountains and a couple of locals saw us coming and were fucking horrified that we had come all that way on foot, lol.
The other side of that coin is that people also tend to learn from their parents mistakes and at least avoid some of the negative patterns that came before.
No one can be a perfect parent, but most parents try their best to give their kids a good childhood and then there are some who should have never had kids in the first place.
A bit of nuance is in order, else poems lile that one just feels too fucking childish for me to take seriously. It reeks of I’m 14 and this is deep.
Here we go again 🙄
My problem is that I feel like the idiot among idiots so I’m still intimidated by it. I want to eventually take the plunge, but I am genuinely so fucking stupid when it comes to tech that I’m afraid I will break something if I try, lol.
I actually like that the sun doesn’t set until like ten in the evening where I live. It also starts rising at 3 in the morning. I love it. I prefer this to depression season the other half of the year xS
I remember having a discussion woth someone many years ago who vehemently insisted that mental illness didn’t exist until the late 1900s and that nobody were mentally ill nor dealing with disorders before psychology was invented. His conclusion was that mental illness and disorders were made up by psychologists to make money off of people.
Some levels of stupid are so severe that you just can’t do anything but sit and stare in disbelief after awhile.
Weirdest thing for me was when I recently listened to a radio program where an expert in Vietnamese culture and history talked about the Vietnam War and how the Vietnamese feel and think about the American part of it and almost universally they are all like “meh, we have dealt with worse”
Meanwhile it seems like the American consciousness think of the Vietnam War as almost a national scar akin to 9/11.
It is of course a simplification of what was talked about in that program, but it really stuck with me how over it the Vietnamese were because they have dealt with injustices far worse than that war and besides America became their ally later so why even worry about that?
Really shows you the differences in mindset. Americans hold on to the past like it’s a lifeline while most other places we kinda just deal with shit and move on. I for one hold no grudges against Germany and my country has mostly forgotten or moved on from occupations and other historical wars because there were so many of those and everybody fought everybody in Europe back in the day so whatever man. Moving on. We technically have a tradition where we are supposed to put candles in the windows on the day we were freed from the Germans. My dad is old enough to remember that day and how people ran through the street with our flag and yelled “the Germans have surrendered”.
But today most people forget to put candles in the windows and life has moved on. We do remember what the war was and what it meant, but we just don’t feel the need to hold on to it like that.
If ww2 had happened to America the same way it happened to Europe, they would have made it they whole identity and pissed and moaned about it still. We would never hear the end of it. Instead they got to spend a few decades gloating about how awesome they were and how they saved the world from the nazis, lol.
“You would all speak German right now if it wasn’t for us” completely ignoring the fact that a good number of European countries speak German and a many others learn German in school for practical reasons.
Your clippies look so cool! Sucks that you only have two left :/