Original question by @SourGrapez@piefed.social
I’ve been with a lady for two years and recently started dating her new boyfriend. We all consented to the relationship and so far, it’s going good. I’ve also heard from some people though who used to date many people that it didn’t work out so they decided to date monogamously.
Was convinced into one by (what seemed like at the time) a fairly cool lady who was married, husband had his own couple girlfriends, was an open marriage all above board, I thought I’d broaden my horizons and see how it went. She had no one outside the marriage and it quickly became VERY apparent why, hoo boy was that woman a horrible horrible person when she wasn’t pretending to be likeable. Never gonna mess around with that again, monogamy or nothing for me.
I used to date my Dungeon Master (Dungeons and Dragons, not anything weird) and one of her friends she grew up with. The relationship was pretty brief, but she was really good at emphasizing communication between all of us. The breakup didn’t even really feel like a breakup.
A couple years ago, she died in a car wreck with one of the players in my group and even though we weren’t dating at the time, it made it harder for me to get back into the dating scene after the relationship I had around that time ended shortly after. I briefly got back with the other person I dated, but it wasn’t the same and they weren’t poly anymore.
If I was in a relationship right now and got over it better, I’d definitely be poly. It felt really normal.
Sometimes my wife’s boyfriend lets me play his Nintendo Switch
I assume your positions are $CUCK
It worked out great when I was in relationships with people who weren’t monogamous. Didn’t work out so great when someone was playing pretend and trying to play “last partner standing”.
It will only ever work out if you, and your partners, are polyamorous and it is super important to have those conversations early so everyone is on the same page.
I hang out with a lot of poly people despite not dating anyone at the moment, and I know of a relationship where one partner is either doing that intentionally or on accident. They’re the only monogamous person (and admitted to me they don’t want to date someone who is poly but don’t want to break up), and dating someone who has multiple serious partners that they’ve been with longer. I really can’t see it going well if this person doesn’t say something, even if it probably would lead to a breakup just due to being incompatible. I feel like it’s not my place to warn their partner about it, so I’m just burdened by this information that I don’t really want to know about.
I dated twins once, it was fascinating. It was like they had a right brain/left brain split. One was very buttoned up and professional, the other very unrestrained and wild. One was right handed, the other left handed.
They would often say the same things at the same time, it was like having conversations in stereo. We had tons of fun, but had been put together for work from two different offices. Eventually that ended, but it was fun while it lasted!
Tell me it was like this.
Less color, but yes, very similar.
I’ll be in my bunk.
I have questions, like uh did you ever…ya know…😅
The main takeaway for me was that it’s possible but that it takes a lot more open communication and emotional availability than a monogamous relationship. It really takes very mature people to make it work.
It was great until my wife and girlfriend decided that they didn’t like each other.
